Divorce lawyers end up divorced as often as our clients. I’m not sure why we don’t acquire some special knowledge from watching so many people make the same mistakes over and over. But, alas, we don’t seem to gain any immunity from our experience. Plenty of us get divorced.

I’ve been fortunate not to have been through the experience. In fact, yesterday was the twentieth anniversary of my marriage to Lisa. It seems like only yesterday that we were married. The wedding was eventful: my wedding ring was stolen, along with the marriage license, from our car the night before. Just a few hours before the ceremony, the police recovered the license and ring.

We’ve been through quite a bit together. When we were married, she was 22 and I was 29. I left my job and started my law firm four months before our wedding. We had our first child after three years and our second child three years after the first. When Delaney, our second, was 18 months old, I had a heart attack and quintuple bypass surgery. Lisa was 31. She was amazing. She took care of me and juggled both kids. We had quite an adjustment to make, and she led the way. She has been incredibly supportive of me through many trials and tribulations-health related, business related, and otherwise.

Last night, we had dinner at a great place in the mountains of North Carolina where we’ve been staying for the last few weeks. We reminisced about our adventures, we talked, and we worried about our kids. I told her how grateful I am for everything she has done for me, what she means to me, and how much I value the connection we share. We’ve been best friends for more than 20 years. I love her deeply and am as excited as ever about our future together.